bpd–daisy:

No matter what, you never deserve abuse.

• You never deserve abuse because you’re too needy or clingy
• You never deserve abuse because you “let it happen” or “didn’t fight back” or “didn’t stand up for yourself”
• You never deserve abuse because you “let it get this far” or you “stayed this long”
• You never deserve abuse because your abuser is your mother or father, sister or brother, other family member, your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancée, husband, or wife
• You never deserve abuse because you have a particular mental or physical illness
• You never deserve abuse because you’re “too emotional”
• You never deserve abuse because you were “asking for it”
• You never deserve abuse even though you’ve made mistakes, or said something wrong, or haven’t understood something, or can’t remember something
• You never deserve abuse for being “too much” or “not good enough”
• You never deserve abuse for having off days or being vulnerable sometimes
• You never deserve abuse for asking for help
• You never deserve abuse, no matter how many times and how many ways your abuser justifies it or makes excuses for it.