hundondestiny:

I’m seeing all kinds of sex discourse on my dash and I can’t… believe… people are still saying it’s “boring” to have “vanilla” sex. There is no such thing as “vanilla” sex. BDSM and “kink”-heavy sex is not a bar to be strived for. Exciting, good sex is what you and your partner decide is pleasurable for you at the time. 

This culture of needing to be violently smacked around and such is extremely damaging and ultimately unhealthy. Getting to the point where you cannot be aroused or cannot climax unless you are inflicting or experiencing extensive amounts of pain is not healthy. 

Y’all need to be critical of why the things that turn you on do so, just like we’re (or should be) critical of any of our interests and personal behavior. It’s… not a difficult concept.

Like are we gonna start calling people “normies” because they don’t find regular reckless, dangerous behavior fulfilling or exciting? Come on, y’all. Get a grip. On something other than your partner.